When Is Enough, Enough?
By Eddie Rooster
Most of us have been there at one time or another during our life.
One definition of “enough is enough” is when you constantly make excuses for someone else’s bad behavior, or you feel you are to blame for others’ bad actions.
As an adult, you learn intuitively that everyone is responsible for their own actions and behaviors. It can happen when you have been tolerating something but are unwilling to continue doing so, and you are ready to make change.
Most of us know of or have heard of someone who has generated $1 million in annual income by the time they were 30 years old. Perhaps a friend or relative had given them some insider trading advice when they were 20, or maybe they were already making $100,000 in annual income by the time they were 24, or simply wanted more and were willing to work harder to get it.
Not all of us were fortune enough to get good advice, or to get a great money-making opportunity, or to make up our mind to work twice as hard as everyone else to get there by the time we were 30.
It is perfectly natural to want more of just about everything in life except trouble, illness, and associated misfortune along the journey.
But sooner or later a salient question arises: When is enough, enough?
Some husbands and fathers put making more money and providing more for their family ahead of spending quality time together with their wife and children. Many mothers want it all, a great job, a great income, and quality family time with their children and their husband, but is there is enough time in the day to do it all and still be happy?
There are ambitious, hard-working men and fathers who, when they earn a million in annual income want to become a decamillionaire, earning $10 million in a year.
At some point, effort and happiness can separate us from what could and should be happening. Making more money can bring as much trouble as happiness. We can easily get overextended in spending; we are not really getting ahead if we make $1 million in annual income and obligate ourselves to $1.1 million in expenses at the same time, not to mention spending all of our time working and very little time with your partner and family.
We do not need a fancy, 100,000+ vehicle to get from point A to point B. Living in a million dollar home does not mean we will be automatically happier with our life, marriage, or relationships.
Core relationship needs refer to the needs in your relationship that are non-negotiable; for example, you do not want your spouse or partner to be an alcoholic, a drug addict, a child abuser or ill-tempered and violent. No one can be happy when they are unhappy. You are either reasonably happy with your relationship, or you are not; perfect relationships do not exist.
We know this when we learn that a man spent 20 years looking for the perfect woman and it still did not work out because the woman was looking for her perfect man.
We only have two sexes—male and female—but we now have no less than 68 recognized terms that describe gender identity and expression. Please do not ask me to identify them all; there may be a few I cannot even imagine. The point is, the world is becoming increasingly progressive and, is that a good thing?
Our world is in fact becoming more progressive in every possible way imaginable. Core family and individual values of 100 years ago are all but nonexistent in our behavior and society today. Heck, core family and individual values of 50 years ago are unseen among families and individuals today.
Modern progressives in our country today are championing to have sex education for kindergarten students, thinking that the sooner they learn about sex the better adjusted they will be in their relationships when they are adults.
This is absolute nonsense and dangerous to the normal maturation process. Kindergarteners do not need to learn about various positions while having sex, or learn about sex at all in their formative years. This is inappropriate curriculum for the youngest of our schoolchildren.
Our children grow up faster now than any time in our history. Access to the Internet has allowed the youngest of our children to grow up way too fast. They will pay for it in their coming years. History will tell how long their relationships will last.
My mantra to young children is do not try to grow up too fast, because what most of us do as an adult is to work, worry and wonder what new mode of communication will be coming down the pipeline next. Just think virtual reality, or look it up if you need to, the Internet is just fingers away with cell phones and computers.
The bottom line is: Lord help us all, just say a blessing, and pass the potatoes.